While watching Eat, Pray, Love one of the characters named Richard told Julia Robert’s character Elizabeth Gilbert, “Groceries” (Richard’s nickname for Gilbert), you need to learn how to select your thoughts just the same way you select what clothes you’re gonna wear every day. This is a power you can cultivate. If you want to control things in your life so bad, work on the mind because if you can’t learn to master your thinking, you’re in deep trouble forever.”
The past couple of days a certain somebody has been creeping into my thoughts. If you can select your thoughts then why is it the one person you don’t want to think about always ends up in your thoughts.
It’s not bad thoughts or good thoughts I think “I wonder how he’s been doing?” Even though I can’t escape my thoughts I’m very thrilled that I finally have my impulsive reactions in check. It used to be one thought about him would lead to a quick text to a mutual friend and me asking have they heard from him. Or sometimes that one thought would lead to a text to him asking if everything is good in his neck of the woods.
I don’t know why I wanted to beat myself up that day he crossed my mind but when I thought about him the next thought was “What the hell are you thinking about him for Ebony
I think I was afraid of that thought because in church a couple of days prior the minister said “Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habits. Watch your habits; they become your character.” When I heard that in church all I could think was “Dang, one thought can lead to all that?”
The day that the thoughts of him raced through my mind I came up with my own quote. Watch your thoughts because some of them shouldn’t even be a thought. I couldn’t make this ish up if I tried.
@Yaris
ALL my readers said, "It was too soon." and my friends just flat out said, "Hell No!"..lol
I don't know about everybody elses friendships, but I know for him and I it won't work. Which is very unfortunate b/c we were BFF @ 1st.
You are absolutely right some love/care needs to be from a distance…a far far far distance!
oh i understand that. i think it was too soon for you to attempt a friendship with him anyways. just reading your posts you could tell that there was still some feelings there. you gotta be patient with yourself and let time ease all of those emotions out of your system before you can ATTEMPT a friendship with an ex in my opinion. however..ive yet to be in a situation where the attempt was successful regardless lol. Just keep reminding yourself that there is a reason why you two are not in each others lives right now and leave it at that. Sometimes i catch myself struggling with the thought of "why cant we be good with one another? We both have good hearts and we both care about another. Why cant it work at any capacity? even as friends." But two ppl not being in each others lives doesnt have to mean that hes not a good person or that you dont care. Ive come to the very recent conclusion that you can love and care about someone from a distance. And sometimes thats the best choice in order to prevent further damage to whatever is left between the two of you.
@Yaris
LOL…no you didn't miss anything. I didn't post what happened because…well I don't know why I didn't post it.
It's very tricky for use to be a part of each other's lives because a simple debate/comment/oppinion/situation can send one of us (ESPECIALLY me) into a fit and then our argument goes into what happened yesteryear and before ago
Needless to say an argument occured and that was that…unfortunately.
I wasn't upset or anything and to be honest I didn't tell any1 but my mom.
Whatever happened with you two? Did i miss that post? the last i recall i think you were attempting a friendship with him.
@RapidRelief
I need to check that book out. Let me ask my mom does she have it.(She know she owns a library worth of books.)
You are kinda saying what my my friend said. He said, "Get your mind off the past and back on the money!" That was the best advice I heard that whole week.
LOL @ your last line…never that!
Yes, you not only have to be careful of your thoughts but also your words. I read a great book about that called "The Game Of Life & How To Play It." Alot of ppl think its about some pimp isht, but its really about positive thinking, positive words, & Karma. Its a GREAT read & kinda like The Secret. Anyway, keep positive thoughts about love & money. Dont think about stabbing him….LOL!